When a man starts to complain to me about "the patriarchy" in anything approaching a serious tone, my instinctive reaction is "Get the hell away from me, you gerbil of a person."
I could explain why I think "the patriarchy" is nonsense, why men get a bad rap, why modern discussions of sex, gender, and "roles" is deluded, but I'm not trying to make a an intellectual point here. I'm just being honest. Talk about the patriarchy as anything but a joke, and my ability to take you seriously crashes.
And yeah, I'm just one guy one the internet, and a nobody at that. But there you have it. Crude's confession of the day.